Monday, August 20, 2012

in {her} shoes...Deirdre

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today's guest post is Dierdre from JDaniel4's Mom.  She hosts an informative link party called Read. Explore. Learn where posts that are linked up are based on books.  There are some cute and educational ideas there every week.

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While sandals and flip flops are fun to wear, my summer shoes tend to sneakers that offer my toes protection. My son tends to forget to look down and see if his shoes are going to step on anything and my bare toes seem to be under them often in the summer. Sandals are fun and look so much better than my sneakers with summer outfits, but sneakers tend to keep my toes safe.
Sneakers also keep my feet cleaner. My son loves to play outside in the dirt and summer storm puddles. Joining him in outside play is wet and messy.

What is the most challenging part of being the type of mom I am?

I love to encourage my son to seek the answers to the myriad of questions he has about the world around him. We scour the library of books that will help us find the answers to questions about microorganisms, space, under the sea creatures, etc..

The challenging part isn’t finding answers a four year old will understand it is taking the time to listen to all the questions that he comes up with all day long. Just when you think you have explored every aspect of a topic there are new questions. He is constantly building connections in his find or asking me to help me find ways to build them.
The questions come up at good times and bad. Times like when you are trying to focus on following driving directions, decide what is for dinner, and encourage a small boy to go to sleep are bad. Times when you have arrived at your location, are eating dinner or a small boy gets up in the morning are good.

I want my son to seek knowledge and think about things. Given that he is an auditory learner he tends to process information and ideas orally. It can be hard to ask him hold that thought until later or tell me that mom is overwhelmed with all the words those questions are filled with.

I don’t want him to stop asking questions, but I do want him to learn to file some of his questions quietly in his mind until later.

What is the most rewarding?
I became a mom over the age of forty. Hearing a little boy that for most I my life I never knew I would have call me Mom is the most rewarding thing ever. I am amazed everyday that I gave birth to this incredible little boy.

What do you think are the most important values parents can instill in their children?

My biggest dream for my son is that he will change his world. I don’t mean the whole world although that would be great. I do mean his small part of the world.

Teaching him to care for others who are older, younger, less fortunate, or have special needs is something I am really trying to teach him.
We are working on this by volunteering to do yard work at a children’s home, taking food to the food bank, and donating clothes and toys to a local charity.

Another way we are working on caring for others is talking, reading and being around people that are different that we are.
Sometimes that is planned and other times it just happens. JDaniel noticed a man with warts all over his face at a restaurant on Father’s Day. He wanted to know why he was different. I told him I didn’t know why he had those warts, but I did know he must be a very special man. JDaniel wanted to know why and I asked him to look at the lady who was sitting with him. She was holding one of his hands and having a conversation with him eye to eye. Her eyes were filled with great love. “To have someone love you that much means you have a beauty that you may have to look inside to see,” I told him.
If JDaniel learns that all people have value and treats them with respect, I will be thrilled.
Deirdre Smith
JDaniel4's Mom

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41 comments:

JDaniel4's Mom said...

Thank you so much for the opportunity to share on your wonderful blog.

The Preppy Girl in Pink said...

What a wonderful way to explain to JDaniel that there can be a more amazing person on the inside than on the outside. You made me well up. JDaniel is going to grow into an amazing adult.

Heather Smith said...

I love how your goal is for him to change his world!

Mudpiesandtiaras said...

That is a neat interview!

Mama to 4 said...

Nice post Deidre! I love your blog -- you are super creative!

LOVE MELISSA:) said...

What a great post! You are such a great mom and writer!

heather at wordplayhouse® said...

You are instilling strong values in your son and cherish him deeply. You have shared a beautiful insight into your own mothering here. ~heather

Trisha said...

What a great interview. You're an amazing mom =)

Bethany @ No Twiddle Twaddle said...

What a sweet post. It is obvious that you are a wonderful mom!

Kristyn said...

love this post what a wonderful mom you are!

Whitney said...

Great hearing about other moms and their hopes for their children and themselves as mothers, thanks for sharing!

Brittany Morazan said...

Great post!

Kim said...

We all hope we are raising our children right. Sounds like you are!! Great guest post. I would love for you to share that with my readers.
http://mommieagain.com

AmberFaith said...

Awesome post, Diedre. I admire that you don't want him to stop asking questions.

Amanda T said...

This is an awesome post, I wish more people would instill good things like this into there children.

Emma @mummymummymum said...

Beautiful post! You sound like an amazing Mom. xx

Susan Case said...

Beautiful touching post from a special mom and son.

Zina :: Let's Lasso the Moon said...

So heartwarming... "I become a mom over the age of forty. Hearing a little boy that for most I my life I never knew I would have call me Mom is the most rewarding thing ever. I am amazed everyday that I gave birth to this incredible little boy."

http://livingatthewhiteheadszoo.blogspot.com/ said...

What a lovely post I love that you are teaching to change his part of the world.

thefairyandthefrog said...

so true >>> 'the challenging part ...is taking the time to listen to all the questions that he comes up with all day long'

JDaniel4's Mom said...

It is wonderful when opportunities appear right before your eyes.

JDaniel4's Mom said...

Thank you! I think he has the potential.

JDaniel4's Mom said...

The questions that I was given were really wonderful.

JDaniel4's Mom said...

Thank you so much!

JDaniel4's Mom said...

Thank you for visiting this wonderful blog. Your words made my day!

JDaniel4's Mom said...

I really love him and want the best for him.

JDaniel4's Mom said...

I am so grateful I was given the chance to share on Crayon Freckles. I love this weekly series.

JDaniel4's Mom said...

Thank you! I really try to be!

JDaniel4's Mom said...

Thank you so much!

JDaniel4's Mom said...

I do too. They encourage me to dream big for my son.

JDaniel4's Mom said...

Thank you so much!

JDaniel4's Mom said...

I think we are. Giving the all that they need to be their best is so important.

JDaniel4's Mom said...

He is wired to think and question. I don't want to prevent him from growing and learning.

JDaniel4's Mom said...

Thank you! I think many of us are trying to.

JDaniel4's Mom said...

Thank you so much! I really try to be the best mom I can be.

JDaniel4's Mom said...

Oh! Thank you! Hearing that from you is really special.

JDaniel4's Mom said...

He really was a special gift.

JDaniel4's Mom said...

Thank you! I bet you are doing it too.

JDaniel4's Mom said...

It sounds like you have a lot of questions at your house too.

Michelle said...

Nice post:)
Michelle
http://www.normalchaosforamultitaskmom.blogspot.com/2012/08/a-birthday-that-almost-wasnt.html

Krissy Sherman Bonning said...

Dierdre, that is such a beautiful way to explain inner beauty and love! You're a great mama. :)

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