i like to consider myself an attachment parent, which entails responding to my child's needs and emotions.
there are times when i just have to ignore him and not pay attention to his behavior.
because i don't want him to learn that acting out, throwing a tantrum, breaking our family rules will get him attention.
instead, i praise him for positive actions, behavior, and choices.
there are times that he gets awnry because he wants affection from me. and as much as i just want to swoop him up and love on him, i can't. i don't respond negatively or discipline him for this attention-seeking behavior. instead i tell him what the appropriate way to get what he wants.
i don't want him to equate using hurtful or mean words/actions with obtaining love and affection. i think that it only begets relationship problems in the future.
why am i making this admission?
to emphasize that if you ignore negative behavior, you're not necessarily a bad parent. and to provide you with support when/if you've had to defend your parenting choices and criticism from others.
now that i've said all this, i have to say...
though i do support ignoring your child's negative behaviors at times, i do not think it is okay, nor do i suggest ignoring any behaviors that endanger the child or others, are abusive, or damage property. please use your discretion.
again, there are times i ignore my child...but i feel that sometimes it is necessary to not reinforce those behaviors.