Thursday, January 31, 2013

moms talk about the cry it out approach

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moms who've done cio  
We've done "cry it out" at my house on many occasions. I try everything I can think of… fed, change, rocked, no obvious signs of pain I can fix, if they are still crying... I just hug them and we "cry it out" together. –Chelle from Having Fun at Chelle's House
 
We let both girls "cry it out." Within three nights, they learned to put themselves to sleep and sleep through the night with no problems at all. I feel like some people think that crying it out means you just leave them in their cribs and let them cry for hours without going in there. We used the Ferber method...we moved the time in between comforting up by a couple minutes each time until we reached 15 minutes and by then, they were calm or already asleep. Worked like a charm. So really, the first 10-15 minutes of the first night were the hardest. Now, both girls (4-years and 22-months) hop into bed and sleep for 11 to 12 hours straight. Two happy, well-rested little ladies. –Anne

I was very much against it. Then when my daughter was around 9 months she was at the point where she would wake up at night and was not able to put herself back to sleep. I would be standing next to her crib rubbing her back for HOURS. I would be standing there at 4 AM crying. I was grumpy and more importantly my daughter was grumpy because of the lack of sleep. I begrudgingly tried the "cry it out" method. It was hard. I bawled my eyes out the first night. I felt like the worst mother in the world. Since that night she sleeps perfectly. For us I think it was best. Would I recommend it for everyone? No. I am no longer as judgmental about it as I was though because I felt like teaching my daughter to be able to fall asleep on her own was in her best interest. –Brittany

My daughter slept an accumulated total of 3 hours out of every 24, and all of it in the car. At 4 months we used cry it out and I'm pretty sure it saved my sanity. It only took 2 nights and a few glasses of wine for me and then she slept 8 hours at a stretch. I don't think it's a perfect solution for every child and every family....it did nothing for my third and he still isn't a sleeper at age 5, he's just better at entertaining himself. -Erin from The Usual Mayhem

I think it depends on the situation and the child. In general I would say that it's better to attend to your child's needs. However when I went back to work when Goblin was 8 months old we dropped his 2am feed. We knew he could self settle because he did it during the rest of the night. We tried going in and cuddling him and that seemed to make things worse and prolong the crying. So after three nights of walking around for two hours with a screaming baby we tried leaving him to cry. We had a video monitor so we could see what was going on and we lay there feeling terrible listening to him. He cried for quite a while (but much less time than when we had gone in to hold him) and then he stopped and went back to sleep (in total he probably cried for half an hour. which when I write it down feels horrendous and I don't know how we did it to him or us). The next night he woke, cried for about 15 minutes and fell asleep again. The final night he didn't wake up. I don't think I could have continued with what felt like a cruel process if it had taken any longer than it did. But I should point out that goblin was a really good sleeper and this feed was the only time he properly woke in the night and didn't settle himself. I think if he'd been an anxious baby or a bad sleeper this technique would have made it worse. Now he is three and if he wakes in the night it is because of nightmares and we will always go in to him to reassure him. I think having the support of Hublet was the only way I could do it –The Monko from Taming the Goblin

We did "crying out" with both our kids. It worked wonderfully with my son. And was much harder with my daughter.  I felt the nighttime sleep was very important for her to be happy and balanced the next day. So though she also cried an hour at night (the first time), it quickly settled and she slept through. I am very pro crying out, but I do think you need to watch your child and see how they respond. Only do it if you think you can handle it. Many find it very distressing! –Maggy at Red Ted Art
 
moms who haven't done CIO

I am very con cry it out. It never felt right to be responsive all day and then willfully ignore the child at night. My son was a terrible sleeper and we tried one night of cry it out at 8 months and it was enough for me to know it wasn't for me. He didn't sleep through the night until he was night weaned at 2. With my daughter she co-slept from 6 months until 2, when we moved her to her own bed she would wake once a night (still does) . Now at 6 my son goes to bed with no bedtime struggles other than sneaking in for cuddles a few times a month. I would never judge another parent for how they choose to parent but it wasn't right for me. Bedtime is no different than any time of day, when my kids need me I attend to their needs. I think the middle of the night cuddles are a need - both kids are incredibly secure and confident (well except with mascots and clowns :)). –Allison from No Time for Flashcards

It is not something that would have worked at all with our first daughter. We were both comfortable as parents cosleeping to help our baby to sleep. She was often up as many as 5 times a night the first year of her life but would settle quickly with a cuddle or nursing. I think this helped her immensely in the long run. At 5, she settles herself to sleep and is a very deep sleeper. –Rebekah from The Golden Gleam

I am a big advocate of "do whatever works for you". We never let our boys cry it out and they are all fantastic sleepers now. Our oldest slept through the night at 16 weeks, our second oldest was 3 months, and our youngest was 14 months. All kids are different, and moms are in the best position to decide what is best for their child. –Gina from East Coast Mommy

We followed the no cry books. It didn't solve all our problems but I believe human babies are designed to wake up during the night and they need the assurance. We coslept with both kids. Our 3 year old son still cosleeps with us. And he just started to sleep through. –Isil from Smiling Like Sunshine
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We did the no cry books. It’s definitely not a quick fix, but as a long term philosophy it works wonderfully. I think its very important to find the cause of the sleep problem, which is more often than not, over tiredness. We coslept with Jake until he was 2, and he made the transition to sleeping by himself happily and quite independently and now sleeps for 11 hours at night, no bedtime issues... We are currently co sleeping with Poppy and will continue to do so until we feel she is ready to move on. Love sleepy cuddles. Xx -Kat from Creative Playhouse

We do not cry it out. I'm not one to tell others what to do or not to do, but cry it out seems so wrong to me. I've nursed/cuddled/rocked all of my kids to sleep, and while it takes longer in the beginning, they are wonderful sleepers now. We had some of our best moments together reading and cuddling and drifting off to sleep. My kids were never alone in their cribs crying and wondering why their mother, the one person in the world that they can trust more than anyone, was not coming to them. They knew then, and they know now, that if they cry, I will be there. If they need me, I will come. I won't judge a parent that chooses to cry-it-out. But I will always be against the practice. -Erin from Royal Baloo

When they are less than one, I don't let them cry to sleep-but we cosleep/bed share throughout the first year. After that they have typically been great at going to bed on their own. BUT there have been times where I've tucked them in, comforted them, explained it is time to go to sleep and walked away. They might whine and cry mildly for a few minutes and then calm down and sleep. If it is expressing their displeasure of the situation and it decreases in intensity fairly quickly then I let it happen. But if it is wailing or increasing in intensity then we'll go cuddle and see what is bothering them. -Alicia

I follow the No Cry Solution. I can't cry it out. I know it works for some, but not for me. I am more attachment parenting. If laying with my boys for a couple minutes gets them to calm down and go to sleep so be it. I coslept with both of them and extended nursed, which lends itself to not letting them cry it out. I respect everyone's opinion though, it worked for many friends. –Evelyn

When my youngest (born at 28 wks) was home, all in-laws said it was a MUST to cio, otherwise just spoiling him. It didn't feel right to me, and I'm so glad I didn't do it. We found at 6 months he had severe anemia. Things were so bad that his heart and liver were enlarged, and the stress from regular crying could be too much for his heart and kill him. It's better to respond to your baby so that they know they can trust you now, and have it continue later into life. But I suppose each family does what they think is right for their own situation and every parent tries to do what they think is best for their child, which is what we all want. –Crystal

We had a totally different experience with each of our daughters. Our first child wanted to hold our hand to fall asleep. We tried to let her cry it out. But, I didn't have it in me. She would eventually fall asleep (holding our hand) and we would sneak out of her room. She would wake up in the middle of the night and we would bring her into our bed. My second child slept like an angel...never a peep. This issue is so individual, it's amazing. My mom's approach was to take a deep breath and know that those sleepless nights would pass. -Jennifer

I'm con Cry it out and Controlled Crying. I firmly believe that if I am there for my kids during the day, the same applies at night. I have 2 children that don't sleep well, J at 3 and a half has just started to sleep through the night again. T has never slept longer than 3 hours in a row.  What we didn't know but now do is that she has sleep apnoea and by waking herself up, she is keeping herself alive. I dread to think what could/would have happened if we had used CIO. Would she have been trained not to wake up, the results could have been drastic for her. For me it was never an option but so many people have suggested it as what I must do. –Cerys from Rainy Day Mum

It may work for some (I wouldn't do that with mine) but if you do try it and its not working after a week....give it up! –Selina
the in betweens
First, the term "crying it out" means different things to different people. Obviously, safety should be the #1 priority. If the child is very young, crying for long periods of time is not good for the child and something could be wrong. For older children it is all about your parenting style and family atmosphere. I think my style is right in the middle. I will let them cry a little bit, and if they aren't going to sleep, I go in and hold them, comfort them. -Janine
I have never been comfortable with traditional CIO. Even though my daughter was a terrible sleeper, I couldn't do it. After her second birthday, she was diagnosed with a chronic illness, resulting in pain and inflammation. I was so thankful that I never let her cry alone for very long. If I honestly don't know why they are crying, I want to hold them close and help them fall asleep.  My daughter also suffered from night terrors for TWO YEARS. Two.Long.Years. On top of pain. On top of side effects of meds. My husband and I haven't slept in 4 years. ;) As parents, we all do the best we can...so I don't judge how others choose to deal with things like sleep. As long as they don't judge me –Katie from Playing with Words 365

We tried it and our son would just cry until we got him. –Deirdre

It depends on the cry with my daughter. I will evaluate why she might be crying in my head - could she be hungry, need to be changed or have a real reason for crying. If I know she doesn't need anything, I will leave her for awhile. I do have a time limit I will let her cry, about 10 minutes before I will try to soothe her. If what she needs is a little snuggle before she settles down I will give her a few extra minutes. –Jessi

Tried CIO with my son (Ferber) and he wailed more than ever before and did NOT get better but worse after days of trying and two attempts. Was done after that and used Elizabeth Pantley's No Cry Sleep Solution with gradual success and my sanity back. -Jennifer

I think it comes down to knowing your kid. I know my daughter's cries and how the hurt cry is different from the scared cry is different from the attention/tantrum cry. I am not even sure if what I did was CIO because I would never let her wail for over a few minutes and she was closer to a year old and on. It is a hot button issue and people all parent differently. I was one who believed you can't spoil a baby under 6 months, you can't hold them too much, respond too much or anything. –Michelle from Delicate Construction

There is a fine line. Hold your baby if he/she needs you, they are only babies for a short period. We can never go back. Do what you think you should. –Trudy
I finally learned that if the person asking wasn't willing to come to my home in the middle of the night to deal with my amazing awake child, then how I chose to deal with it wasn't their concern. I will say this: each child is different, and they all need unique approaches to help grow and nurture them. -Ann



 
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Wednesday, January 30, 2013

Community Helpers Activity with Safari Ltd. TOOB

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we are so lucky to have a great working relationship with the replica company Safari Ltd.  we recently got one of their People at Work TOOB to explore and play with.  the set includes: a police officer, an airline pilot, a veterinarian, a postal worker, a construction worker, a chef, and a firefighter.
 
here are our thoughts from the moment we saw it in the catalog:
 
Bear {4} knew *exactly* what he wanted to do with it.  he wanted to talk about all the different aspects of each of their jobs. 
 
i was very impressed that the figures portrayed not only various races, but also promoted gender equality by portraying the airline pilot and veterinarian as women and the chef as man.  this type of thinking is something that i express frequently with Bear... that anyone can be anything they want.
 
to complete our activity, we used:
4 pieces of colored craft foam
various toys and dollhouse pieces corresponding to each profession
critical thinking
 
to set up, i laid out the profession tools out and placed pieces of foam in a semi-circle on our work space.  then i put the figures on the foam.  (most pieces had 2 figures on them.) 

then Bear set out classifying each item in front of each of each profession.  i included various items that could correspond to different figures.  for example: a dog could be cared for by a veterinarian, bark and chase a mail carrier, be a K-9 unit for the police, or a rescue dog for the fire department.  other items that were open-ended were a carrot (vet or chef), warning cones (construction worker or firefighter).  i did this so that not all of the choices were right or wrong. 
do you see the police car and fire engine?  they're from the Safari Ltd On The Road TOOB.

here are some other of our other children's activities using these and other Safari Ltd. products:
 
 
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Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this product free from Safari Ltd. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

Tuesday, January 29, 2013

garbage truck video for preschoolers

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garbage trucks.  what's the fascination that some kids have with these smelly, germ-ridden vehicles?  the answer to that question eludes me.  ever since Bear could walk, he goes haulin' to the window when he hears one coming up the street.  now, we have 3 different trash companies that service our street, and both have recyclable and trash trucks.  that makes 6 different trucks.  and they each go up, then down the street.  that's 12 garbage truck drive-bys per week.  you'd think it would get old, right?  in case you missed it, check out the fun garbage truck learning activities we covered yesterday.
 
 
some interesting facts we've found out about garbage trucks....
  • in some countries there are garbage trucks that play music to let residents know that it's time to bring down their trash.
  • there are approximately 179,000 garbage trucks in the united states source
  • names around the world for garbage trucks include: lorry, bin wagon, sanitation truck, and dustcart.

i think that we've watched about 50 different videos on garbage trucks from around the internet.

so with the help of some friends, we made our own garbage truck video.  *and* it's on our new YouTube Channel.
 
 

 
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Monday, January 28, 2013

garbage truck preschool activities

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Bear loves everything garbage trucks!  when they come thundering up the street, he goes tearing off to the window to catch a glimpse of them.  so what better theme than garbage trucks for me to plan learning activities around? 
 
for a garbage truck literacy activity, i got out some of our easy word flashcards with pictures on them and our alphabet milk caps.  using a Little People garbage man and a toy garbage truck, we set to work.  Bear's "job" was to help "Mario" {the trash man} to load up the letters that matched the word on the card into the trash truck. 
 
i set out the milk caps needed to spell the word along with a few others.  and he set to work finding the correct letters.  after he had laid them out in order, i helped him sound out the words.
 
we also used this same up to do a garbage truck math activity to practice counting.  we used wooden number pieces from a puzzles, colored craft pom poms, and tongs.  this is an extended idea from our math with tongs activity.  Bear chose a number, then dropped the corresponding number of pom poms into the "trash can" {empty fruit cup}.  after he had done that, he helped "Mario" dump it in the back of the garbage truck.

the next activity was a garbage truck color and size sorting activity.  i originally saw this idea on No Time for Flashcards done as a recycling center.  to correspond to our garbage truck theme,  Bear pretended that his Matchbox flatbed was a sanitation truck that delivered trash cans.  all of the various sizes and colors of legos were put off to the side.  then i pretended to call him and tell him what color houses needed whatever sizes.  he then found the correct color and appropriate size (big, medium, or little) and "delivered" it to the corresponding house.
 
we also did a garbage bag windsock using a drawstring trash bag.  i laid it out flat and Bear drew on it with permanent markers.  he asked me to draw with him, so we ended up working together.  to turn it into a windsock, i cut the seam on the bottom so it was open.  then i sliced strips up towards the top.  i think that it turned out really cute! 


you can also check out our garbage truck montage video on our new YouTube channel here or here
 
 
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Thursday, January 24, 2013

on watching him paint

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Wednesday, January 23, 2013

Little Blue Truck preschool activities

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we recently read the Little Blue Truck and Little Blue Truck Leads the Way.  these books are such favorites of Bear's, i decided to use the book for some learning activities.

Little Blue Truck Phonics & Reading
Bear {4 yrs, 4 mon} has shown interest in learning how to read.  of course, i'm grabbing his opportunity and enthusiasm and running with it.  we've been working on sounding words out and word endings such as -at, -et, -ig, and -ar.  {more on how we're doing this in a few days} i  made up some word cards of three-letter words that have these endings.  i used business cards cut in half just because i had alot of them.
 
in The Little Blue Truck Leads the Way, the little truck is delivering some kind of green vegetable to a business in the city.  so we filled a little blue matchbox truck up with 2 spot green legos to represent the vegetables.  then it was up to Bear to "deliver" them to the appropriate "business" {card}. 
 
i laid out 5 different cards, some with the same beginning letter, some with the same ending sound.  i pretended to call Bear and ordered some vegetables to be delivered to the dig restaurant, for example.  then he went card by card and sounded out the words until he found the right one.

 
Little Blue Truck Math & Problem-Solving
in The Little Blue Truck Leads the Way, the truck gets stuck in a traffic jam where all the vehicles are struggling to get through.  so we played a Little Blue Truck version of Rush Hour, Jr. game.  the goal of the game is usually to get the ice cream truck out of the board.  we switched it out with the blue truck game piece.  not only did this extend the book, but it refreshed a game that we've had for awhile.


Little Blue Truck Art
for art, we did the classic painting with cars and trucks.  after digging through the 300-some matchbox cards, we found vehicles that corresponded as close as we could to the vehicles in the book. 

i laid it a long piece of easel paper on the floor with a shower curtain under to protect the floor.  Bear picked out the colors of paint he wanted to use and poured them on paper plates.  after rolling the cars and trucks in the paint, he used them to create tracks on the paper.
 
i love using books as a basis for learning units because they often have so many images and ideas to expand on.  The Little Blue Truck Leads the Way is just another great example of how the story doesn't have to end when you close the book :) 
 
 
 
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Monday, January 21, 2013

Martin Luther King, Jr. Day diversity activity

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in honor of Martin Luther King, Jr. day, i wanted to reshare a post from last year.  it was inspired when my son felt my braided hair and asked me
"momma, why do you have braids like a black girl?"
 
the post features the answers that several children gave to the question:
Why do people have different color skin?
 
also in this post is a simple way to explain differences in skin color to children using terms and the means that they can understand.
 
 
 
 
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Thursday, January 17, 2013

when and why i ignore my child

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i like to consider myself an attachment parent, which entails responding to my child's needs and emotions. 
 
but...
 
there are times when i just have to ignore him and not pay attention to his behavior.
 
why?
 
because i don't want him to learn that acting out, throwing a tantrum, breaking our family rules will get him attention.
 
instead, i praise him for positive actions, behavior, and choices. 
 
there are times that he gets awnry because he wants affection from me.  and as much as i just want to swoop him up and love on him, i can't.  i don't respond negatively or discipline him for this attention-seeking behavior.  instead i tell him what the appropriate way to get what he wants. 
 
the reason?
 
i don't want him to equate using hurtful or mean words/actions with obtaining love and affection.  i think that it only begets relationship problems in the future.
 
why am i making this admission?
 
to emphasize that if you ignore negative behavior, you're not necessarily a bad parent. and to provide you with support when/if you've had to defend your parenting choices and criticism from others.
 
now that i've said all this, i have to say...
 
though i do support ignoring your child's negative behaviors at times, i do not think it is okay, nor do i suggest ignoring any behaviors that endanger the child or others, are abusive, or damage property.  please use your discretion. 
 
again, there are times i ignore my child...but i feel that sometimes it is necessary to not reinforce those behaviors.
 
 
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Wednesday, January 16, 2013

REVOLUTION46 brother and sister shirts

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the featured sponsor of Crayon Freckles for January has brought some smiles to our house. 
 
Ultra COOL Big Brother & Baby Announcement T-Shirts
 
 
all of their shirts are handmade to order using eco-friendly water based dyes and 100% preshrunk cotton shirts that are available in a wide variety of colors and sizes. {they even have onesies}

 
when i saw this shirt i knew that my little superhero had to have it with Lil Bro put on it.  for Christmas each year, we all make a present for each other.  this year, Bear wanted to get his big sister a matching shirt to go with his. 



both shirts have been washed and worn numerous times and still look as good as the day we got them.  i really wanted to get a picture of the kids in these together, but Pip's hours have been crazy, and i've not been able to :(

 
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Saturday, January 12, 2013

for when i need a laugh

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with The Sergeant deployed, somedays i just need a good laugh. 
and on those days, the comical inspiration i so desperately need is often elusive.
 
today is one of those days.
so i'm sharing with you two videos that i have bookmarked on my taskbar
if you're having a rough day, maybe they can put a smile on your face too.





 
 
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Thursday, January 10, 2013

winter sensory bin flashback

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this is a flashback post published last year.  i love this winter sensory bin so much, i wanted to share it with you in case you missed it.

i used several items from the dollar store and hobby lobby (clearance items).  here's what it looks like:


the winter sensory bin is made up of:

blue rice (from our creation story sensory bin)
white/blue/purple pom poms
blue/white/purple pony beads
blue ribbon pieces
large blue sequins
iridescent asterisk sequins (they look like snowflakes)
iridescent star sequins (also left over from the creation sensory bin)
winter erasers
jingle bells
blue plastic table gems (used for table decoration)

Bear drove his dumptrucks and cars through the "sNOw"he even busted out some of our little gardening shovels and dug in the snow. 



  
 
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Wednesday, January 9, 2013

the strong-willed child vs. the strong-armed child

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i've had some questions from a few people regarding some of my posts about my attachment style of parenting/natural parenting.  they've centered around how giving your child choices may turn out to harm them when they don't have a choice, how parenting choices can teach them to dominate the house, and that sometimes children just need to do what they're told.  here is my response:

God gave my son a strong will... a determined, questioning nature to teach me patience.
 
he was strong-willed even in the womb.  during the course of my pregnancy, i:
                            -was involved in a head-on collision that totalled my vehicle
                            -contracted Fifth Disease
                            -contracted Parvovirus
                            -was in the ER twice for dehydration
                            -was put in the hospital due to a botched foley balloon catheter insertion

my son was 8 days overdue when i was induced with pitocin.  the first day produced only 2 centimeters dilation.  the second day did little until the doctor broke my water, essentially "forcing" him out. 

as an infant and toddler, we didn't give in to every demand.  we instilled the natural consequences employed by many attachment parents and provided him with choices.  there are times that our attachment parenting style  confused with being overly permissive

a child that's constantly given into is the one society refers to as "spoiled".  this type of child uses the strong-arm technique and has learned that his/her words and/or actions can cause parents to allow the child to rule to roost.  granted, at times he has toed the line on domineering, but thus far, we've been able to steer him back in the right direction. 

God made my son perfect.  i won't treat him like a horse whose spirit and will must be broken to fit to my expectations.  i don't want him to follow me blindly and obediently "because i said so".  in an amazing post one this subject, the Hippie Housewife addresses this issue and states:

"Fear-based parenting is restrictive, reactive, and ultimately not rooted in reality. Because fear focuses on control and prevention, it actually restricts a healthy, age-appropriate independence as the child grows. Conversely, Attachment Parenting focuses on healthy attachment, mutually-trusting relationships, and responding to the needs of the individual child. The security and reassurance provided allows the child to grow into an emotionally security, empathetic, confident, and independent individual."

i want him to question {respectfully of course} why we ask him to do things.  i want him to understand our reasoning so he knows why our rules are important to follow.

i believe we have a God who wants us to implicitly love and trust Him.  but at the same time, it is unavoidable that questions will arise regarding our beliefs.  i want my children to explore these questions with me while they're young so that i am here to help them and avoid becoming one of the lost. 

God created my son as he is.  He made him strong-willed, stubborn, determined, bull-headed...whatever you want to call it.  but, he is who he is and i wouldn't change that for the world. 
 
 
 
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Tuesday, January 8, 2013

Milestones in Literacy Development from Stay At Home Educator

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Milestones in Literacy Development
While most children learn to read by age seven, the development of literacy begins in infancy. Learning to read is an intricate process that is built the understanding of the English language and its structures. This process is systematic and follows predictable stages of development. Infancy
  • reaches for books
  • enjoys bright contrasting colors and pictures of faces
  • looks at and pats pictures
  • turns board book pages with help
Toddler-hood
  • carries books
  • points when asked, "Where's..."
  • brings books to adult to read
  • looks at books independently
  • names familiar objects
  • handles pages appropriately
Preschool
  • turns pages one at a time
  • holds book properly
  • listens to longer stories
  • enjoys a wider variety of topics
  • understands what text is
  • "reads" books by retelling familiar stories
  • searches for favorite parts of stories or favorite illustrations
What parents can do to encourage literacy development:
  • Allow your child to hold books while reading together.
  • Point out details in illustrations and name them.
  • Read to your child when prompted by your little one.
  • Encourage your child to participate in reading by competing predictable sentences or retelling a story.
  • Reread the same story over and over.
  • Relate stories to child's personal experiences.
  • Encourage reading and writing.
  • Ask your child open-ended questions while reading aloud.
For Related Articles by myself, Stay At Home Educator:
Encouraging Emergent Literacy 
Pre-Reading Skills: How to Prepare Your Child to Learn to Read
Sunday Morning Reading
Why Teach the ABCs

For Further Reading:
Literacy Milestones: Birth to Age 3 Andrea DeBruin-Parecki, Kathryn Perkinson, and Lance Ferderer
Literacy Milestones: Age 5 Andrea DeBruin-Parecki, Kathryn Perkinson, and Lance Ferderer
 
Stay At Home EducatorSarah is an educator and stay at home mom. She is the mother of a three year old boy, William, and an twenty month old girl, Corinne. In addition to maintaining her blog, Stay At Home Educator, she currently runs a preschool co-op out of her home and teaches in the education department at The College of Idaho. Stay at Home Educator is about using educational research to be an intentional parent teacher. She can be followed via website, Facebook and Pinterest.
 
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